We are a community of hope, dignity and respect, comprised of people from diverse cultures and faith traditions. Linked by an invisible bond, we are respectful of each other and joined in our commitment to live meaningful lives.
FOOTPRINTS: When we post on a public forum, we leave “footprints” for anyone in the world to see. Anything we post might be identifiable by others if we include a recognizable avatar, user name, other names, dates, links or even a vivid description of events. For some this is not an issue, but for those who wish to remain anonymous it can lead to unwanted attention or even exposure to possible confrontation.
USERNAME: We urge members to choose a user-name that is not their real name. If you post your real name, the name of the deceased or any other names, dates, cities, etc, your post can be recognized by others.
USE DISCRETION: There are times that we ask posters to edit their writings because of the possible ramifications of identifiable details. Those posting such details may have come to terms with them, but the possibility always remains that someone else involved with the loss may still be struggling. Reading the details may cause them additional pain. – We are also vigilant about what we call “toxic” posts. Many times readers get drawn into a “right/wrong” situation, blaming or taking sides. We are all on the same side on this journey – to survive and heal.
INTERPERSONAL ISSUES: It is common for interpersonal issues to arise following loss to suicide. It is common to feel angry towards those who may have mistreated our loved ones or who don’t understand our grief. Dealing with these issues is a very important part of the survivor journey, but the specific and recognizable details of these issues are best addressed in a private setting. Venting and blaming in a public forum, at the expense of another is more hurtful than healing – for all concerned.
THE FORUM IS A TOOL FOR HEALING. Just like any tool, it should be used wisely. Thousands have found that connecting with others has opened a door to healing beyond anything they expected when registering. We hope it will be of comfort to you also.